Free From Fatigue: Breaking Free at Last


Free From Fatigue: Breaking Free at Last

~ with endearing appreciation to those who have been following this series ~

Screen Shot 2015-08-20 at 6.40.40 PMThis post completes my 31 Day Writing challenge. I have been writing in the evening before going to sleep, but last night I was so exhausted I just could not write coherently. When I signed up for this challenge, I never heard of it before and had no idea what to expect. The notification for the t-shirt caught my eye because it had feathers on it. I also liked that it said, “Challenge Accepted,” because I have had to accept many challenges in my life.

When I took this challenge, I had already been thinking about how I could break the neck of my fatigue, which is a bad choice of metaphors given my neck injury from whiplash and the subsequent swelling that nearly ended my life. Nevertheless, I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I had the vague hope that maybe writing my way through the last vestiges of my recovery might prove helpful.

Silly me. As much as I gained from writing 31 days in a row, the last thing I did was end my fatigue. In fact, writing just agitated it, and I should have known that. The sedentary activity of writing works fairly well with my chronic exhaustion brought on by acquired traumatic brain injury (ATBI), and it is easier to tolerate than is physical exercise, but sedentary activity is not the best for my heart and lungs. Because my respiration was also affected by my injury, it is important for me to be outdoors daily. I don’t breathe deeply otherwise, so I need to work my body to force better overall blood circulation; in fact it is crucial to my overall health–I don’t get enough oxygen to my brain if I don’t. I’m caught in a bind between being weak and frail (my muscles lost tone and I tend to fall often) and needing to move to build strength, which often leads to the physical fatigue/exhaustion and pain I’m sick and tired of (going on year nine). However, writing, while sedentary, causes cognitive fatigue and that presents as head pain, lots of heat pouring out of my head, and many slurred or lost words–the basic inability to access what I was thinking or doing two seconds ago–so short-term memory lapses. These neurological challenges are not fun, but I am ever cognizant that they could be worse. I’ve made a lot of adapting, but it’s just not the lifestyle I envisioned.

The challenge began with our being told to pick a theme to write on for 31 days. I was unprepared for this requirement and had no idea what to choose. Later, I realized that this challenge was more of a blogging event than a writing event and even that the term “writing” was a little misleading, because most of the bloggers were happy to stay within the 300 word length of a typical blog post. I appreciate this, but it isn’t the best formula for working one’s writing muscles, as the more we write the better we usually become.

Since growing my blog was not my main motivation, I stayed focused on the writing aspect of the challenge. Writing also improves cognitive healing, while growing one’s blog readership does not. Writing causes fatigue, while growing my blog readership causes stress (which can lead to fatigue). I wasn’t prepared for all the technical and marketing requirements of this challenge, and instead felt overwhelmed by them to the point where I just had to try to ignore them. I chose to stay focused on the writing, but as far as I could tell from the communications exchanged, I was alone in this endeavor.

The technical matters were by far the worst part of the challenge. We had to create an electronic button of a certain format using specified dimensions with apps I’d never heard of. Then we had to use social media almost as intensely as I was writing; again, something I’m not adept at yet. Even when I tried to follow the expectations, there were glitches, and as with all technological challenges, people were working at all different levels in all different places. I began to feel that this would have been more aptly titled the Writing and Technology Challenge.

I did see my Twitter followers quadruple in membership, and this led to some notable reads and shares of some of my posts. Then I saw that my readership wasn’t growing nearly as quickly as many of the other challenge members, and again I had to wonder what I was doing wrong, or more likely not doing with some app or plug ins. I was introduced to many things I didn’t know existed. While overwhelming, I do welcome the learning. It’s not that I am opposed to increased online exposure, it’s just that I never really thought much about it before, as I am mostly interested in the writing aspect–which offers challenge enough.

As for my own writing, I feel apologetic for the length of my posts–but only where readers are concerned. The work is vital to polishing my skills, which were compromised by the brain injury. Here are some of the errors I’m making now that this challenge brought to light:

  • an increase in misspellings, sometimes inadvertent due to typing (such as “to” for “too”) but even more frequently, loss of word picture. Where before I could “see” a word instantly, now I have to search my mind for its spelling. In the past, I was 98% of the time correct; now I am about 51% of the time wrong.
  • an increase in typos–where I used to write consciously, knowing at every second where I was in a word and in a sentence, now I tend to write unconsciously in a sort of semi-sleep state…plus my hands don’t work as accurately on the keyboard. I find myself once in a while searching for a letter on the keyboard, where before my mind knew instantaneously where to go.
  • laziness or fatigue–by the time I write a post, I rarely want to proofread it, where once I was very conscientious about proofreading. Now, it’s practically torture for me to sit through a text once I’ve written it, combing it for accuracy. Where once I was diligent, now I am impatient. This is not a “personality change” so often ascribed to brain injury survivors so much as it is a cognitive change, (although it may present to onlookers as a change in personality).
  • misplaced modifiers–I do this constantly, including in simple ways such as splitting verb parts, “have frequently been given” when I mean “have been given frequently.” Misplaced modifiers are even more involved than this, but one I catch most often in my writing now, which brings my writing back to the level it was in high school, not where it was after advanced degrees and 25 years of teaching English.
  • style–my writing style has become very expository, when once it leaned more heavily toward the poetic. This comes, in part, from teaching expository writing for so long, but it also has to do with the embedding in my brain, which lost sophistication, and which is part of what I am working to regain.

The best part of this writing challenge was the satisfaction the pure act of writing brought me. Every day I wrote I felt happy while writing and once completing a post, and this mood elevation lasted throughout the day. I hadn’t anticipated that but it was sort of a built in picker upper. The accomplishment of writing so much over such a long period of time helped my self-esteem, which took a big hit when I was injured and recovering. My husband and I had many laughs about the work as it was unfolding, and this bonded us in ways we also had lost while I was ill. It felt like his respect of my intellect returned, after feeling that after my head injury, he saw me as retarded and unfocused, which I was sometimes. Best of all, the occasional responses from readers showed me that I can write and that my writing does have merit in the world. Finally, all this writing I’ve done–sometimes as many as eight hours in a day for 31 days in a row–proves to me that I can write a book, that I can complete the book I’m writing (even though I already lost all my files, ugh technology)! This is great energy moving forward.

Yesterday, with one post left to complete the challenge, I was like a kid out of school. I ran around when I should have been at home writing or outside walking. When I returned from the store, I made some treats for our granddaughters, including a fresh banana birthday cake from scratch for the 2 year old, and some Rice Krispy treats for the 16 year old. I made a meal with a salad to take to the grandkids’ so that we don’t have to eat at a restaurant and can enjoy family time more leisurely at home. I cleaned and did laundry. When it was all over, I was exhausted–but who wouldn’t have been? For the first day since this time 2007, I was myself again–busy, productive, happy. I would say, no matter how tired I am now, that this indicates that I have indeed finally broken free from fatigue. I have accomplished my long desired goal. I am back at last to living life and to doing something I have always loved to do, writing.

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This is Day 31 in the 31 Day Writing Challenge, 31 Days of Breaking Free from Fatigue

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8 thoughts on “Free From Fatigue: Breaking Free at Last

  1. Oh Deb, Congratulations for meeting your Challenge and WOW did you ever!
    31 days of post when your fatigued from the start is like a double challenge I would think. I enjoyed all the post and commented on most. I am so happy for you and your last line tells it all, your back to living a full life and doing what you love to do! You must feel pretty darn good right now and so deserving.

    • It really was a double challenge…but you know, it did move me forward. I consider this a great success, and am grateful for all your participation and support. Thank you, Judy!

  2. Congratulations! You have accomplished your goal! This in itself is worthy of praise!
    It was very interesting to read, what you learned from this experience. One thing it has proved for you, which is still happening to me: “you are never too old to learn!” You can indeed, have new experiences & learn much from them. It is great you learned & shared, much about yourself, what has happened before the injury, during the injury & after the injury. There is progress! As with all things learned: rejoice when there has been learning, newer understanding or whatever has been positive. Even any negative results: if they helped you understand something-you have found something to do about it-which further improves results, this too is positive. It is just like what God has often done in my life: God has often taken something bad, which has happened to me in my life & made into good. I say this with all praise to God! I also say to you: keep going Debra! You have me, as one of your “cheer leaders!” God has given you the gift of writing. Anytime we use the gifts & talents, God has given us, we are doing what God created us to do, as the plan for our life & as the reason for us, being on this earth. I can tell you, your life definitely has played a positive role in my life & in the the life of others! I hope to keep looking forward to get up, read what you have to say, starting my day in another positive way!

  3. Deb, I am even more impressed by your commitment and accomplishment after reading this post. Good for you! I am happy that you didn’t let all the additional “requirements” of the challenge stop you from writing and making the challenge your own to meet the desires you had when you accepted the challenge. Brava for you! <3
    Cheryl S-D
    PS I was drawn to the t-shirt with feathers on it too, but couldn't accept the challenge.

    • Thank you, Cheryl. I meant to add that the shirt I received had an odd fit to it. I know it was the shirt, because two weeks later I received the same size for another event, and it fit perfectly. I never wore the t-shirt once, but had promised to put up a photo of myself in it. The days just got away from me. Guess I need to get into the selfie thing, too. Writing is really my area of interest. I appreciate your comment.

  4. I have really enjoyed reading your posts, most especially now that my daughter’s new boyfriend has had several concussions while playing baseball (perhaps 14?) and that he just recently had another one. I can tell that there may be some challenges ahead for her/them. Congrats on making it all 31 days!

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